40 Things I Learned from Love for Imperfect Things

1. Many good people are victims of mental and emotional suffering as a result of their hesitation in speaking up and expressing their feelings.

2. Instead of worrying too much about what other people think of us, it's better to love and take care of ourselves first.

3. Negative feelings and emotions don't simply disappear by suppressing, hiding, or ignoring them, but by expressing them through words.

4. When someone asks you a favor, remember that you also have the option to say "I am very sorry, I can't help you."

5. Rather than choosing a life where we don't do something for fear of making mistakes, it's better to choose a life where we can improve ourselves through failure and pain.

6. Our common mistake is to compare how we feel inside with how people appear outside.

7. You may appear unattractive not because you have many unattractive qualities, but because you think you do and look uncomfortable. Keep in mind that your confidence is the most attractive quality.

8. Compare yourself only to who you were.

9. Shower your children with attention and make them feel secure within your love. Thus, they won't grow up starved for people's acknowledgment.

10. Listen to your heart more than the opinions of others when you make a decision. A decision made because of the opinions of others is one we often regret.

11. Your heart is way wiser than your head, it already knows the answer.

12. Be parents who are honest, compassionate, dedicated, and tolerant because children won't look up to those who are overprotective.

13. In time, I believe I will meet someone who will value me and my abilities.

14. Some questions are better left unasked.

15. If you want to help others, just listen to them without giving advice and personal interpretation, and empathize.

16. Try to recall three things that you were thankful for today. You will be happier if you do it.

17. What words are said is important, but how we say them is more important.

18. Even though we don't have solutions to their problem, they will be grateful because we are willing to be all-ears.

19. When you meet someone, compliment them. Everything will flow more easily later.

20. Be a heater for someone. Our presence can warm each other.

21. Choosing not to hate those who hurt you is the best revenge.

22. It's okay to disagree. Keep in mind that if we disagree with others, we must say that our opinions are different from theirs instead of saying that theirs are wrong.

23. Rather than criticizing people who are different from us, it's better to try to understand and accept them.

24. Acknowledge others who are different from us and let them be different.

25. How someone speaks about the other relationships they have had before meeting you tells you how they will speak about you to other people whenever your relationship goes worse.

26. The disappointment that we feel comes from our expectations of others that are not fulfilled.

27. If we don't express our disappointment, it can transform into other more difficult emotions, such as anger, hurt, and betrayal.

28. Much of the stress in relationships comes from the lack of communication.

29. Silent treatment rarely works in resolving a problem. Therefore, talk about it.

30. Even if the intentions are good, don't solve other people's problems if you're not asked to do so.

31. Unfortunate people are people who only see others from their shortcomings.

32. Excessive thought won't solve a problem.

33. When we are worried, ask ourselves, "did I solve the problem by only worrying about it?"

34. Distinguish the things we can control and those we cannot.

35. Rather than regarding your life as a big failure, it's better to accept the fact that there are things which may not work.

36. The initial step to overcoming failure is to fully admit that we have failed.

37. Don't beg for people's attention. Discover and develop our unique strengths, and they will automatically pay attention to us.

38. No matter who you are, pleasing everyone is impossible. In fact, there are also people who consider the food of a three-Michelin-star chef is so-so.

39. The initial step to healing deep emotional wounds is to recognize and accept those negative feelings just the way they are.

40. Worry only when bad things happen, not before.